Pregnant In Mississippi?
Honest, Straight-Forward, and Sometimes Humorous Info on Family-Centered Birth from a Jackson, MS Birth Doula
Labor & Birth
Postpartum & Parenting
So here’s a typical conversation when someone finds out what I do for a living.
It usually starts with small talk. But it never fails, almost always too early for the other persons’ comfort, the question comes up, “So what do you do?”
“I’m a birth doula,” I say, smiling. At this moment, I’m usually trying really hard to not be the weird hippy in the room. I am trying not to think about how birth can be a vehicle for such positive transformation in families and relationships. I am putting out of my mind how fascinating and empowering that transformation is. I’m trying really hard NOT to think of how birth can shape a woman’s life from the moment she experiences it. I’m trying to just focus on being normal and smiling warmly so I don’t scare them off.
“A do-what?!” they exclaim, but I’m guessing what they are really thinking is something more like, “I’m going to ask a question to stall because I didn’t really hear anything after you brought up the word birth in everyday conversation. I mean really, who talks about birth with someone they just met? Now I can’t stop thinking about vaginas and watermelons, and ugh!!! Who is this weird lady?!”
“A birth doula,” I repeat before I explain further. “I help women and their families learn about their birth rights and options during prenatal visits. I offer physical, emotional, and educational support throughout the process of unmedicated labor and birth. And I support them as they adjust to their new normal after baby has arrived. I’m not a midwife; I don’t catch babies or offer medical support. I fill a roll that would have been fulfilled by a community of women back when we lived in closely knit communities.”
And, then it happens – the great divide. It goes one of two ways. They get it or they don’t. They either think I am that weird hippy in the room (why do I keep trying??) and ask why anyone would want natural labor before they try to politely remove themselves from the conversation, OR they see the need for this role in our society and ask ALL the questions. If you are in that first set of people, that’s cool. I know God made me differently than He made a normal MS mom and I’m alright with that. Hang around if you’d like and you never know, you might find something that does resonate.
To my mamas in the second set, YOU are my people. You are my why. Of course you want a healthy baby and mama, but you know that bare minimum is not enough for you. You want to experience birth as the empowering transformation into motherhood it is. You want to continue that experience in your postpartum time and then on into parenting and beyond. Dear mama friend, I get it! I hope you find whatever you are looking for here. If you have a question and can’t find the answer, shoot me a message and let me know what you need. I promise you if you have the question, someone else does too and I’d love to help. I love getting to know my people and am happy to help in any way I can. You’ll get honest, evidence-based, and judgement-free info from me whether you ask me here on my website or hire me to work with you one-on-one as your doula. It’s your birth, and only you know exactly what that should look like. We doulas are just here to support your vision.
If you are looking to find your village, take just a minute and join my FB group for pregnant and expecting moms. This is where I offer FREE informational series on all things pregnancy, labor and birth, postpartum, and beyond. This is where the other moms like you are. This is also where I am most easily and quickly able to be reached. Email isn’t so handy when I am at a birth, but Facebook and Instagram are.
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Madriella Trained Birth Doula
Gottman-Certified Bringing Baby Home Educator
International Childbirth Education Association (ICEA) Trained Childbirth Educator
Stillbirthday Birth & Bereavement Doula Student
Serving the Jackson-Metro (or a 40-mile radius around Brandon, MS)
Evidence Based Birth Professional Member
ImprovingBirth Network Chapter Co-Leader and Professional Member
ICAN Professional Member
Plus Size Birth Professional Member